In the past, when people say “NO” to me, I would judge this person as arrogant, ignorant, and self-centered. If this person is on Facebook, I would “un-friend” him or her right away. — However, as I am getting wiser, I realized that the world doesn’t owe me anything.
I can’t just walk to a restaurant and demand the restaurant to give me food without paying for it. I can’t just walk to a girl and force a girl to become my girlfriend. I can’t just go to a store, demand the store owner to hand me their products without paying for it. The question is,“ How do you deal with rejection especially if you are attracted to someone?”
After I got married, many friends told me that I was “lucky” to get married to such a beautiful lady. – My wife is girly, charming, and love me for who I am. For me, it is a blessing. Every day, even up to these points, she is crazily in love with me. We are always in the honeymoon stage.
The question is, “Does luck play a big part in my relationship with my wife?” – I wanted to say yes. In reality, 30% was luck, but 70% is perseverance. – Why do I say that? Well, if you look at the statistics, here are how many times I went on a date:
1. I was available in the market for two years.
2. I went out on 100+ dates.
3. I said “No” to over 20+ potential girlfriend after the 1st date.
It means that IF I chose the wrong person, I would end up miserable, in the darkness, and dated a similar type of girl like my ex. In the end, I would either break up with the girl or got divorced later on. The question is, “Why rejections are the greatest experience you should appreciate in your life?”
Here are three bold habits to help you deal with rejection:
HABIT #1: Use the word “NO” as part of your growth list.
I used to be 238 pounds. After each kickboxing class session, I would have to lay down on the bed for a couple hours. – I was dead tired. And, when I woke up, my arm, leg, and abs would feel really sore. I remembered the time that I got back from the kickboxing class, I felt like I was hit by a truck. – I couldn’t move for days as my body was extremely sore and painful.
However, I push myself to keep moving forward regardless. Within a few months, my stamina improved.
The question is, “What is that has to do with the word NO in real life?” – Answer: Everything. – When you hear the word “No,” you visualize it as if you are getting a punch in an invisible stomach. Does it hurt? – Yep. Did you die from it? – No. Then, why not get more “No” from others?
“Hey man, can you help me to promote my product?” – I asked Mr. Apple.
“Sorry, bud. I can’t promote your product,” – Mr. Apple flat out rejected me.
“Any reasons, bud,” – I asked as I wanted to learn what Mr. Apple wanted.
“Well, I don’t like books. I think if you can have them in a home-study course, I may consider it,” – Mr. Apple replied.
“Thank you. I appreciate your feedback,” – I replied with a smile emoticon.
*I added Mr. Apple’s feedback on my “Brain Bank” list on what I needed to do for the next project.*
(A few months later…)
“Hey bud, I appreciate your feedback last time. I created a home-study course based on what you suggested. Is this meeting your expectation?” – I asked Mr. Apple.
“Now we are talking. Let me clear up my schedule to promote your product to 300,000 subscribers,” – Mr. Apple replied.
HABIT #2: Keep moving forward, regardless.
Unless you are a limitless individual, there are 99% chances you will ask others for validations. – I used to be that guy. I was in a fearful state. I had no clue what was in front of me. I didn’t have a vision. I didn’t have my WHY statement. – A lot of time, I would spend time asking others for guidance instead of taking massive imperfect actions.
However, as I built a bonded relationship with many top CEOs in the country, I discovered that they focus on the power of “One.” I talked about this subject on my other blog post. (Read it here.)
“Henry, you are new here,” – Mr. Chocolate asked.
“Yes, I am. I hope to learn from you and other folks in here,” – I mentioned to Mr. Chocolate as I am a new member in this elite mastermind group.
“That’s great. I know you will learn a lot as much as I am,” Mr. Chocolate replied as he chuckled.
“What do you do?” – I asked Mr. Chocolate.
“Well, I own a YouTube Channel called [PRIVACY],” Mr. Chocolate replied.
“Wait, it is yours? It has 2 million followers. That’s awesome. How did you do it?” – I asked as I admired his accomplishment.
“Use the power of one,” – Mr. Chocolate replied.
“Can you explain more?” – I asked as I got confused.
“As long as one person watches my video, I will keep making it,” Mr. Chocolate reminded me.
“What if no one is watching my video?” – I asked.
“When I said the power of one, I am referring to myself, Henry,” Mr. Chocolate replied in which it gave me a goose bump.
At that moment, I realized that the power of “one” means I am the only person who has to be the biggest cheerleader of my future. — As long as I stay firm with what I wanted to achieve, no one can stop me from fulfilling my purpose and mission in life.
HABIT #3: Refuse other people words for defining who you are.
A few months ago, one of my ex’s friends spoke with me in person. I seldom meet with him as I tried to avoid any awkward conversation on my past relationship. – All of a sudden, he wanted to speak with me.
“Henry, I have to be honest. I think you are a narcissistic b*&^. I am talking to you as a friend. I am being mindful, “Mr. Dick told me.
“Okay?” – I replied as I felt attacked, especially he didn’t know my ex.
“And, you are a controlling person as well. I didn’t like the way you treated her,” – Mr. Dick replied.
“Okay?” – I replied as I got offended.
“I haven’t spoken with my ex for a very long time now. What’s up with this conversation?” – I asked.
“Nothing. I think you should change,” – Mr. Dick replied.
“Okay, thank you for letting me know. That’s an interesting point of view,” – I replied and distanced myself from Mr. Dick.
As I didn’t put my helmet on during the conversation where Mr. Dick freely attacked me without my armor on when I went back home, I utilized the breathing techniques I perform daily. – It allows me to remove the poison he injected into my brain. And, it will enable me to clear my subconscious mind and focus on what I need to do in my life.
I didn’t want to analyze his thought process. I didn’t want to dig the hole to prove to Mr. Dick that I am not a narcissistic or a controlling person. Why is that, Henry? – I am who I choose to become. Think about it: After the conversation, I had two choices to make:
1.If I keep moving forward with my own journey, I become what I choose to be. (A guy who lives a limitless the rest of his life.)
2.If I keep digging what Mr. Dick told me, I become what he wanted me to be. (A narcissistic man and an a&*hole.)
The question is, “How do you avoid rejection in life?” Please share with other limitless family members your thought on the comment below.
Regardless, I strongly recommend you to download my new e-book, “The Limitless Mindset” for free at http://thelimitlessmindset.com. It will show you how to unleash your power to fulfill your duty & mission in life.
Limitless For Life,
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur