For the past few decades, I didn’t understand the words “walking dead” really mean. Why is that, Henry? ANSWER: I am always hungry. – I remembered one time I fell asleep in front of my laptop as I was too exhausted. As soon as I woke up, I cried.
“Why are you crying, brother?” – My younger sister came to my room.
“I wasted 30 minutes of my time,” – I replied.
“I know how you feel, but you are exhausted. We are not a machine,” – My younger replied as she tried to comfort me.
“I really hate the fact that we are so broke. I need to get things done as soon as possible,” – I replied.
“Don’t worry. I believe in you and what you are capable of,” – My younger sister replied.
*I smiled and fired up my laptop.*
It is the reason WHY when people told me that I was lucky or I was talented. I shook my head. I have no clue what they were talking about. – For me, there is no coincidence in life. I earned my success. I ran toward success. I don’t walk, drag my day, or wishing something great will happen. Instead, I keep putting my head down, zip my mouth, and complete each to-do-list for the day.
After the brain tumor surgery, my mother-in-law took care of me for four weeks. During that downtime, I knew that IF I didn’t feed my brain, the darkness would start to occupy my thought. It was the reason I read two (300+ pages) books. – It was my only way to conquer my brain.
The question is, “Why 97% of human populations allow darkness to paralyze their lives?”
Well, here are five signs you are a walking dead:
Sign #1: You are looking forward to the next vacation.
I have seen a lot of posts on many social media platforms that people are talking about what they are going to do at the Christmas party, Hawaii vacations, cruise, and much more.
“I can’t wait for my vacation in China,” – Ms. Apple told me.
“When is it?” – I asked with a smile.
“It will be in March. I am going to Beijing, Shanghai, and Tibet,” Ms. Apple replied with excitement.
“But, your vacation is two months away. How is your work?” – I asked.
“I hate my work,” – Ms. Apple replied as she gets annoyed.
“Why do you hate your work?” I asked as I got curious.
“Well, my boss is too tough on me. My colleague got a higher salary than mine…… (Bla Bla blab),” – Ms. Apple talked about she hated life for 30 minutes.
“Why don’t you just quit or find a new job?” I asked.
“Are you serious? How can I pay my bill?” – Ms. Apple replied.
“Okay, what are you going to on your vacation in China?” – I asked as our conversation got a little bit too serious.
*Ms. Apple spent another one hour talking about her future vacation.*
A successful person doesn’t really care about a vacation to Europe, China, Singapore, and much more. How do I know? Well, I had a conversation with one of my mentors.
“Where are you going for your next vacation?” I asked Mr. Peanut.
“I am on vacation,” – Mr. Peanut replied.
“I don’t understand. You are here in your house. What do you mean you are on vacation,” – I replied as I got confused.
“Henry, have you heard a quote that says life is a vacation?” Mr. Peanut asked.
“I heard it before. However, I don’t understand the real meaning of it,” I replied as I don’t agree with what Mr. Peanut told me.
“Henry, one day, you will understand,” Mr. Peanut replied.
Mr. Peanut was right. – Once your limitless-being inside you have reached level 10, you can’t wait to get up in the morning. You just want to complete one task after the other. And, before you close your eyes, you would ask yourself if you have given your all that day. If not, you would keep pushing your limit until you have nothing left.
“Why don’t you sleep in the bed?” My wife asked as she saw me sleeping in front of the laptop.
“What time is it?” – I asked.
“It is 6:15 AM,” – My wife replied.
“I didn’t realize that I have been sleeping for more than three hours. Let me prepare the breakfast now,” – I mentioned to my wife.
“Honey, go to bed. I don’t need to eat breakfast,” – My wife told me.
“No, it is my duty as your husband. I can’t skip my obligation regardless. There is no excuse,” – I replied as I smiled to my wife.
“No wonder I married you,” – My wife replied with a smile.
Sign #2: You feel empty, and your heart knows why.
A decade ago, I briefly retired. I told myself that I needed to take the necessary break. For the first few days, I was excited. However, after the fifth day, I became depressed. – Sure, watching movies were great, but it didn’t give me happiness that I seek.
“What are you doing?” – My intuition jump into my thought.
“I am chilling and enjoying my retirement,” – I replied.
“Seriously, why are you wasting your time like this?” My intuition asked.
“I guess that watching movies, eat my favorites foods, and went out with friends would make me happy,” – I replied.
“Are you?” – My intuition asked.
“No, it is really boring,” – I replied.
“Why do you want to waste your life then?” – My intuition asked.
Instead of feeling happy and relax, I felt empty. – A lot of times, I would feel guilty about wasting my time. Within two weeks, I planned a new business venture. And, I never looked back. Unfortunately, it is not the case with everyone. Everywhere I go, I saw people snapped on others.
They are not happy.
They are not living a full life.
They are not focused on their purpose and mission in their life. – Well, they don’t even know why they are alive anyway.
“Have a great day,” – I told one of the patrons at a 7-11 convenience store.
“Why do you even say that?” Ms. Cranky replied.
“Oh, I just wanted you to have a great day. Take care,” – I replied kindly to Ms. Cranky.
“You take care of you. Stop telling me what to do,” Ms. Cranky replied with a lot of anger.
*I became silent.*
“Don’t worry about her,” Ms. Cherry, another patron of the store told me.
“Is she okay?” – I asked as I got confused.
“She is always like that. She didn’t like her job, but she took on everybody around her,” – Ms. Cherry replied.
“How long has she been working for the company?” – I asked Ms. Cherry.
“I think it was more than 20 years,” – Ms. Cherry replied.
*I had an Ah-Ha moment. Ms. Cranky is a walking dead.*
Sign #3: You are not making meaningful progress.
Every Sunday, I would write down “two” big tasks I need to complete IF everything else fails. I will also add two bonus tasks just in case I want to stretch my limit. – And, by the end of Friday, I would look at what I did the whole week. Then, I will ask these two critical questions:
•Did I make progress?
•Did I complete all the tasks I set-up on Sunday?
If I complete most of the tasks, I would ask myself another question:
A) Did I finish the bonus tasks?
B) If not, why didn’t I stretch my limit?
C) What can I do to make my work more efficient?
The question you need to ask yourself is, “Are you making meaningful progress in your life?” – Are you losing the weight you said you are going to do? Are you building the website you said you are going to do? Are you working on the project you said you are going to do?
Think about this: Talk is cheap. And, it doesn’t have a real-world value. Anybody can say what they are going to do. The truth is, “There are less than 1% of the populations who will take massive imperfect actions.”
The question is, “If you don’t make any meaningful progress than the week before, why not?” HINT: Don’t blame anybody on why you don’t do something. Don’t blame on your kids, your spouse, or anyone. Instead, ask yourself on what did you do when you have alone time.
1)Did you spend your alone time watching YouTube?
2)Did you spend your alone time on self-growth?
Here is the conversation I had with other fellow kickboxers:
“Why did you keep hitting the sandbag harder?” Ms. Peach asked me.
“I just want to die,” I replied.
“I don’t understand. Don’t you want to live?” – Ms. Peach as she didn’t like the word “die” as if it was taboo.
“I mean I wanted to give my all. This way, I can keep breaking my own limit,” – I replied.
“I see. I admired your commitment,” – Ms. Peach replied as she handed me her phone number.
*I smiled as I didn’t realize that Ms. Peach was trying to ask me for a date.*
Sign #4: You are waiting for the universe to give you a definite sign before you are willing to move forward.
A few years ago, I used to participate in a non-profit organization every Friday night. As much as I love being around people, I do prefer a positive conversation.
“Well, I wish God give me a definite sign if I should go on a date or not,” – Ms. Pessimistic told the group.
“What sign do you need?” – I asked as I got curious.
“I don’t know. It could be a rainbow. It could be a bird flying by. I don’t know, – Ms. Pessimistic replied.
“You know, the world doesn’t owe you a thing. If you want something, you simply need to grab it. You may get pessimistic all you want. The truth is the universe can easily skip you. You need to design your own life and how you want to live. It is never the responsibilities from the guy up there,” – I replied.
A few months ago, I visited a library in Queens, New York. As I was hungry for more books, I asked the librarian for the business and leadership section. All of a sudden, there was a lady struck a conversation with me.
“Hey, I am Ms. Wong,” – A lady shook my hand.
“I am Henry. It is nice to meet you,” – I smiled at Ms. Wong.
“You seemed to be interested in business,” – Ms. Wong asked.
“Yeah, I am just browsing some books as I am a little bored,” – I replied as I wanted to end the conversation quickly.
“Young man, you are going to be very successful one day. Unlike me, I don’t know what I wanted to do,” – Ms. Wong replied.
“I see. Why do you feel so pessimistic,” I asked Ms. Wong.
“I don’t know what I wanted to do. I am 55 years old. I went to the Chamber of commerce. I went here and there. I… blah blah blah,” Ms. Wong kept complaining for more than 30 minutes.
“You are still very young and vibrant. I am confident that if you take massive imperfect actions. The passion will find its way to you,” – I replied.
“I tried, but I can’t feel the passion. I need to feel it before I can move forward,” – Ms. Wong replied as she was looking for a sign from the universe.
*I ended the conversation as it was too toxic for me to continue.*
The truth is, “The universe has given each one of us many signs.” The sign could be advice from a friend. The sign could be the empty feelings that we feel. The sign could be the hurt that we hold in our heart.
If you feel an emptiness in your heart, start taking massive imperfect actions. When my ex left me, I worked out and lost 65 pounds. – I didn’t look back. I moved on with my life. Now, a few years later, I married a beautiful lady who cherished me for me.
If you lack passion, start taking massive imperfect actions. – I didn’t have a passion for cooking. I cooked because I wanted to develop a new skill. If you go to my Facebook profile, you will see a lot of food pictures. – Remember: Passion is built.
If you don’t want to go to exercise, you should go to exercise. – After the brain tumor surgery, I gained 31 pounds. After the surgeon allowed me to resume my exercise, I slowly lose my weight. Now, I have lost 18 pounds and in the process to lose another 13 pounds. – What did I do? I take massive imperfect actions.
Sign #5: You love weekends or holidays.
Many successful people use weekends and holidays as the benchmark to see how many tasks they have completed before the weekends. – If they make significant progress, they will ask themselves IF there is anything they can do more the following week. – Success is a non-stop journey. It is also the key to live a limitless life.
“Honey, you need to take a rest,” – My wife asked.
“I will take a rest when I am done, “– I replied.
“Are we still going to the outlet mall this Saturday?” – My wife asked as she worried about my health.
“Of course, but why did you ask that question?” – I asked my wife.
“I worry about your health,” – My wife replied.
“Don’t worry. It is in my schedule,” – I replied and winked at my wife.
You see, a lot of people told me that when you focus too much on your self-growth, you will destroy your family. – In the past, I would agree with you 100%. However, as I grew mature to understand the power of the Yang energy in our limitless-being, I discovered something else. – What is it?
Answer: You make time.
In the past, my to-do-list will only include my to-do-list. However, after I get married, my to-do-list expanded in which I would spend quality times with my wife during breakfast and dinner. – A lot of time, my wife would unload on me her struggles in her own business.
“What’s wrong, honey?” – I asked my wife during dinner time.
“Too much work. I am tired,” – My wife replied.
“Tell me everything,” – I asked with sympathy eyes.
“You know… (Bla Bla bla!),” My wife told me about her struggles for more than 15 minutes where I nodded my head and occasionally repeated what she said.
“I understand how you feel. If I were you, I would feel the same way” – I replied as I agreed with her.
“I feel so much better. Thank you, Honey,” – My wife replied.
*What did I do? I let my wife unloaded her struggles.*
Occasionally, my wife would ask me to help her with some house chores. I didn’t say a word, I merely followed her request. – There is no fighting. There is no arguing. It is the balance in life.
The next question is, “What did you do on the weekends then?”
ANSWER: It depends.
“Honey, do you have anything you need to do this weekend?” – I asked my wife on Wednesday night.
“We need to clean our house on Saturday morning. Then, in the afternoon, I need to go to my mom’s house by myself,” – My wife replied.
“What about Sunday?” – I asked.
“In the morning, I will need to wash my cloth. Then, I am free after 2 PM. Do you want to go somewhere?” – My wife replied.
“I will plan for us on Sunday afternoon after 2 PM,” – I replied.
If you look at my conversation above, here are my to-do-list would look like:
A)I helped my wife on cleaning the house. – It won’t take me more than one hour as she would want to do things her way.
B)I would prepare breakfast and lunch on Saturday. – It doesn’t take me more than one hour.
C)I would schedule a date with her at 2 PM on Sunday.
D)I would spend the rest of my weekends on building my business.
All and all, it only took me two hours to help my wife out on Saturday. And, I invested in my family for one hour on Sunday before our date at 2 PM. After our date, which lasted 5 hours, I spend my time on growing my business. My point is, “All of us only have 24 hours a day.”
Your success is depending on how you spend your 24. – If you appreciate your time, you will make time. And, you will make every second count.
The question is, “What are you going with the time you have left?” Please share with other limitless family members your thought on the comment below.
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Limitless For Life,
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur