One time, I spoke with a reader. She told me that she has no passion. Her life was a complete mess. She got angry easily. She didn’t want to get out from the bed. When I asked her about her dream, she told me that she knows about her goal. Yet, she had no clue how to control her impulsive anger.
“Henry, I love you. You are awesome, but I can’t be like you,” – Ms. Peach told me blatantly.
“I love you too. I loved reading the email you sent me on a regular basis. It was very thoughtful of you to reply to every single email I emailed you, Ms. Peach. What seems to bother you?” – I replied as I gave her a compliment.
“I don’t know. I can’t focus. I know I needed to create a WHY statement. – I did. I know you told me that I needed to create a master plan. I have one. Yet, as soon as I woke up and wanted to make the day great, I couldn’t get myself to complete even one task,” – Ms. Peach replied as she got really frustrated.
You see, Ms. Peach has a passion of wanting to live a limitless life. She loved to get things done. Yet, at that moment, she wanted to cry. She had many sleepless nights. However, she didn’t understand the warning signs that caused her to feel the way she felt. When I told her that she was exhausted, she refused to accept it. – I understand where she was coming from. She is what I called an “alpha” female.
As I explained to her the power of Yin and Yang, she agreed to take the necessary steps to resurrect her mental fortitude. Now, before I share with you what the solutions are, the question is, “What are the signs someone is mentally and emotionally exhausted?”
Well, here are five warning signs someone is mentally and emotionally exhausted:
Sign #1: Your heart is like a balloon.
If I put a needle on you, you will be more than ready to eat me alive. You don’t care what the consequences will be, you will lose your temper right away. Worse, you will feel that the world is against you.
Here is what you need to do instead: Do a breathing exercise for five to 10 minutes. It can be in the morning, afternoon, and anytime you feel that you are in need to let go of this unknown anger in you. – Here are three simple steps to perform a breathing exercise:
A)When you breathe in the oxygen from your nose, visualize the white light energy (The Yang Energy) entering your body. – And, visualize every part of your body including your head, eyes, shoulder, stomach, back, feet, limps, etc. are filled with intense white light.
B)Hold the oxygen in your stomach for five seconds.
C)Then, breath out slowly from your nose. When you breathe out, you visualize the dark smoke (The Yin Energy) get out from your body.
Repeat this process for five minutes until you feel the heat sensation in your body. – If you don’t feel the heat sensation yet after five minutes, keep performing this exercise until you are in a peaceful state of mind.
Sign #2: You feel low and lack of motivation in life.
I talked about this in the “limitless” formula that if your level of Yang energy is at level 10, you will act like a machine with a heart. And, when you are in the process to reach level 10, there are “TWO” primary reasons someone will spend their days like a walking zombie:
A)They don’t have a WHY statement. – And, if they do have a WHY statement, they make their WHY statement too high for them to reach. – Wait, it doesn’t mean I don’t believe you can’t achieve it. I know that everyone can reach their full potentials. In fact, I firmly believe that everyone can get ANYTHING they want in life when they put their hearts and souls in them.
On the other hand, if you haven’t bend 350 pounds, you need to start off lighter such as 50 pounds. Once you build a solid foundation, you can increase the weight incrementally. My point is, “Start small.”
So, instead of having a WHY statement such as:
“To maintain four-pack abs for the rest of my life, so that other people will maintain four-pack abs the rest of their life.”
Crete a lighter WHY statement such as:
“To exercise three times a week consistently, so that other people will exercise three times a week the rest of their life.”
This allows you to feel less exhausted. Yet, it will enable you to become motivated as exercising three times a week is doable. And, once you have gone to the gym three times a week for six months, you can then strengthen your WHY statement.
B)They don’t have a master plan. – What is a master plan? It is all those bucket lists you want to accomplish before you are six-feet under. I have one. Many limitless family members have one. – And, you must have one to stay motivated.
Why is that, Henry? ANSWER: I won’t be here forever.
After the brain tumor surgery, I know that my time is numbered. I may have 10 years, 20 years, or 50 years. I don’t count my time as if I have 18,250 days. Instead, I looked at my time as if I only have 50 more new years I can use to accomplish anything I want to achieve in my life.– Here is the conversation I have with my wife:
“Honey, we will travel twice a year starting next year,” – I told my wife.
“No rush. When you are better, we can travel anytime,” – My wife replied.
“Honey, if I have 20 more years, it means that we can travel together 40 more times maximum. I don’t want to wait,” – I replied without hesitation.
At that moment, I saw tears in my eyes as both of us knew that our time is limited on earth. The question is, “What is in your master plan?” – Write things done.
Sign #3: You find yourself running away from those tasks that you promised to complete on time.
You may be avoiding others. You may have said “YES” to some people on helping them with their projects. You may have taken on things that other people throw it your way. – It is possible especially if you are a giver type and believe kindness will go far in life.
And when you discover that you are running away from every responsibility, there are “TWO” elements you have to look at:
A)Are the tasks that you take on truly belonging to you? If it is not, it is time to speak with the person who gives you the tasks whether you have said “Yes” to the person.
REMEMBER: You must participate in your own rescue. By saying “NO” to the person who gave you the tasks, you remove the anticipation from the other person who has given you the projects. And, you will also save your sanity.
“Apple, can I have a few minutes of your time?” – I asked Mr. Apple with a sincere voice.
“What’s up, dude?” – Mr. Apple replied.
“I have been thinking a lot about your project. I seriously feel really overwhelmed. I can’t get it done for you as I was about to have a mental breakdown. I am really sorry,” I asked Mr. Apple for forgiveness.
“You should have told me earlier,” Mr. Apple replied angrily.
“I am sorry, Mr. Apple. I just couldn’t continue as I am mentally too exhausted to continue,” – I replied.
“Whatever, dude,” – Mr. Apple replied.
As we ended the conversation, I felt a sense of relief. Within six weeks, I completed my project which resulted in extra six-figure revenue in 60 days. I know for the fact that IF I didn’t reiterate my position with Mr. Apple, I would end my year with a lot of tears in my eyes and a mental breakdown.
B)Are the tasks that you take will help you one step closer on reaching your WHY statement? If not, you need to prioritize which tasks will take you one step closer to your goal and which projects will delay the process of achieving your master plan.
If you need to go on a diet, jump.
If you need to make money, do it.
If you need to exercise, go.
Look at your priority list. If it is the closest steps you need to take to get to where you want to be, then, keep doing it. However, a lot of time, I discovered that the reason we felt overwhelmed was that we overestimate the time it will take to get to where we want to be. – Here were what my to-do-lists for the day:
1. Create sales letters for a new product.
2. Create five opt-in forms.
3. Speak with my assistant on answering emails.
4. Write sales letters for the back-end offers.
5. Day 1 to Day 30 follow-up letters.
When you look at my to-do-list, it seemed that I had an easy day. In reality, I underestimated the time I need to cross out the first task. WHY? A high-quality sales letter can take between 6 and 8 weeks. – It is not possible to create a top-notch sales letter in one day.
What did I do differently? – I broke down the sales letter tasks to seven working days instead of one day. – The pressure off.
Sign #4: You cry for no reasons. You got very frustrated. You feel pain and alone.
If you cry for no reasons, it means that your internal muscles are a little bit aching. – What should you do in this case? ANSWER: IT DEPENDS. Here are some therapies I used when my internal muscles are sores:
A)I listened to motivational songs. – I don’t talk. I listened to motivational songs such as the Batman soundtrack, Ironman, and Transformer. It allows me to think on all those fictionally heroes do when they do when they want to achieve greatness in life.
B)I used cooking as a way to break the pattern. – Every single week, I would prepare one new dish for my wife. I would cook curry chicken, Pork Ribs with bean curd, Ma Po To Fu, Three cups Chicken, Spaghetti with meatballs, Smoked ham, etc.
C)I read one to two books every single week. – I read them in a sequence. Instead of reading the whole book all at once, I would read a chapter of a book during lunchtime, when I need time to recover my internal muscles, and after dinner with my wife.
The next question is, “Do you ever cry, Henry?” ANSWER: YES. After the brain tumor surgery, my mental fortitude went down for a 10 to level 6. My weight went up from 173 lbs to 204 pounds. I knew for the fact that if I wanted to get back to level 10, I would have to re-build my internal muscles. Each time, I built my internal fortitude, I cried. It was painful. – It was normal, anyway. I didn’t give in. I kept moving forward as I know that it was the only way. And, I lost 18 pounds so far. My four-pack abs have started to appear as well. — The question you need to ask yourself is, “How bad do you want what you want?”
Sign #5: Your intuition asked you to take a break.
Taking a break is okay. — It really is. As you build your internal muscle, you will feel uncomfortable, and you must know the difference between taking a break and quitting your dream.
A)When your inner guidance asked you to take a break, it means that you are exhausted and in need to sleep. – Go to sleep. When you sleep, your inner guidance will help you to strengthen your internal muscles. When you wake up, you will become fearless on fulfilling your duty and mission in life.
B)When the demon energy asked you to take a break, it means that it asked you to quit your dream. – Do NOT listen to the dark force. The Yin energy will always have one goal. It wants you to live a life full of fear, doubt, and despair. So, when it tells you that you should hang out with your friends, don’t. When it asked you to take a vacation, don’t.
The next question is, “What if you can’t differentiate between the Yin and the Yang energy?”
ANSWER: You must remember that the Yin energy will always ask you to focus on temporary happiness while the Yang energy will ask you to concentrate on improving the quality of your life. – Stay limitless. Don’t give in to any temptation the dark energy wants you to do.
The question is, “What are other signs someone is mentally and physically exhausted?” Please share with other limitless family members your thought on the comment below.
Regardless, I strongly recommend you to download my new e-book, “The Limitless Mindset” for free at http://thelimitlessmindset.com. It will show you how to unleash your power to fulfill your duty & mission in life.
Limitless For Life,
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur