How to Say No To People Who Want to Pick Your Brain

In the past, I would get upset when other people wanted to pick my brain. I would tell others that they shouldn’t have behaved that way as it was rude, disrespectful, and much more. However, as I grew older, thanks to my maturity and age, I realized that when people want to pick your brain, it means that you have value and experience that they need.

It was also the reason WHY I welcomed others to pick my brain. However, I did everything in a strategic way in which I would allow others to earn the gifts I am going to provide them instead of sharing them freely. – Why? It will enable them to appreciate each new gift they are about to receive from me.

The question is, “What is a real definition of the word value?” — ANSWER: It is the gift that people have to earn. Here was the conversation I had with Mr. Apple a decade ago:

“Henry, I love your work. You are awesome. Can I ask you a favor?” Mr. Apple asked.

“How can I help you?” I asked with a smile.

“You are one of the best in affiliate marketing, and I saw this one product of yours. Can you give me access to the product? – It will help me tremendously. I can’t afford to pay $97, but I will pay it forward once I have $97.” Mr. Apple.

“Sure, email to my assistant. She will take care of this for you,” – I replied as I really wanted to help Mr. Apple.

“Thank you so much, Henry. No wonder everyone loves you,” – Mr. Apple replied.

Two years after our initial meeting, I met Mr. Apple at the seminar I hosted.

“Hey Henry, do you remember me?” Mr. Apple asked.

“I am sorry. I must have forgotten about you,” – I replied.

“I am apple. I am that guy that asked you about the XYZ product,” Mr. Apple replied.

“I remembered now. Did you follow the guide I gave you?” I asked.

“Oh, I didn’t. I lost the password. I promised I will,” Mr. Apple replied.

At that moment, I had the most prominent “Ah-Ha” in my life. What is it? — ANSWER: People don’t value what they don’t earn. Once I understood this most significant discovery in my life, I utilized a simple technique on dealing with people who wanted to pick my brain for free.

What is it? – I let others earn my knowledge. Instead of getting upset with Mr. Apple, here is how I changed my conversation with Mr. Apple.

“Henry, can I ask you a question?” – Mr. Apple asked.

“Sure. What’s up?” – I replied with excitement.

“I tried to utilize the same email marketing techniques like what you did. However, I can’t seem to get people to buy my products. Can you tell me what did I do wrong?” – Mr. Apple replied.

“That’s a great question. I had this new product called Instant Spotlight 1.0. I think it will help you with that particular skill. If you want, I can give you the link to grab the product,” I replied.

“Oh, I saw that in your email. Unfortunately, I didn’t have the investment for it. Can you tell me what I needed to do?” Mr. Apple insisted.

“That’s a great question. I may address your question in a future article,” I replied.

“When will you post the article?” Mr. Apple got a little bit aggregated.

“I don’t know yet as I have many other tasks in front of me. I got to go now, but. I have a call in 15 minutes. I need to get ready. It was nice catching up with you. You look awesome,” I replied as I was ready to walk out from the conversation.

Here are “TWO” simple strategies that I used to prevent someone from picking my brain:

1.Instead of saying “NO” you can’t pick my brain, I simply say, “This is a great question. I may address your question in a future article.” –I didn’t accuse Mr. Apple of picking my brain. Rather, I acknowledged his inquiry and may address his question on a future article. The word “may” mean I will or I won’t. It is depending on how busy I will be with my existing clients. And, I am not making any promises to Mr. Apple to write an article on the topic of his liking.

2.I purposely told Mr. Apple that I have a course called, “Instant Spotlight 1.0″ where I shared my marketing techniques in the simplest format including email marketing.” – Why do I share the website address with my product? Well, it is because I want Mr. Apple to know that if he wants the answer right away, he can merely invest in his own education.

The next question is, “What if the person that asks you is a relative or a close friend?”

ANSWER: Use the sample principle I shared with you with a “but.”

I know that on the surface, it may look selfish. In reality, 99.99% of the human being will not appreciate what they don’t earn. – I am no exception to the rule.

A.If someone makes love on the very first date with a guy, there is a high probability the guy may not value the girl.
B.If someone receives a large sum of money tomorrow, there is a high probability that we may spend all the money in the next few days or weeks as we feel that the money is the windfall from the universe.
C.If someone keeps cooking three meals a day and seven days a week there is a high probability that you don’t value that person or even take that person for granted.

The keyword is, “High probable.” – It doesn’t mean everyone will behave the same. It is high likeliness that the majority of the people will behave that way. It is also the reason WHY when my relative asked me to give them the product that I created, I charged them the same exact investment I priced it for my client. However, there is a “but.”

What is it, Henry? When my relative does apply every technique I shared with them and produced the result, I write to my relative a check in the same amount he or she gave me.

REMEMBER: You can’t change others. You can’t help others. You can only inspire others to change by changing yourself for the rest of your life. In other words, the more you pedal forward, the more other people will have no choice but to drive faster. – It is the key to live a limitless life.

The question is, “What will you do when someone wants to pick your brain?” Please share with other limitless family members your thought on the comment below.

Regardless, I strongly recommend you to download my new e-book, “The Limitless Mindset” for free at It will show you how to unleash your power to fulfill your duty & mission in life.

Limitless For Life,
Henry Gold
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur

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