Decades ago, I was young and foolish. I would say hurtful things. I would blur out every word that comes out from my mouth. I didn’t care what people think about me. I would say things like, “I am a straightforward type of guys.” Worse, when someone was kind to me, I would praise that person. On the other hand, when the same person tried to give me feedback, I would go against him or her.
I acted very immaturely. – But, did my words have consequences?
The truth is, “I didn’t know.” I thought that I have a freedom of speech. I could care less about what people think about me. If I didn’t like something, I would blur out to my colleagues, partners, and friends. Neither did I realize that my actions impacted my business, my relationship, as well as my chances to get everything I want in life.
The keyword in here is, “I burned my bridges.”
- People stop associating themselves with me.
- People would tell me the word, “Good job, you’re awesome, and I am happy for you.”
- People would say things like, “Henry, it was nice meeting you, but I got to go. I will catch up with you in a bit, okay?”
When I attended a seminar, I would see a group of people shared their information on how to grow their businesses. As soon as I participated in the conversation, each one of them started to excuse themselves from the discussion. – Then, I would see them regroup again on many different occasions.
Still, I didn’t get it on why people would ignore a straight shooter as I once was. – At that time, I could only assume that I was smarter than they were. However, as each day passed by, my business went south. Nobody wanted to give me any input on how I was able to do better. Worse, when I asked several friends for their advice, the only word they could give me was either “Good job” or “I don’t know.”
Years later, after I decided to let go of the need to be right, my godfather entered my life. – He quickly became a father figure in my life. When I told my godfather that my idea was great, he would ask me to prove it. When I said my godfather that I can do this and that, he would tell me to stop talking about it, instead get it done.
As I got upset with Mr. X and Ms. Y, my godfather told me to use my energy as an inspiration for others to change their life. – Soon, people started sharing with me on what they are going to do in their businesses and personal life. I didn’t ask for it. I solely focus on improving myself on a daily basis.
“I don’t understand,” – I asked Mr. Apple.
“What do you mean?” – Mr. Apple replied.
“Why did you tell me all these secrets strategies I need to do to build my business?” – I asked as I didn’t see the need for him to do so.
“Henry, you are a great guy. I believe you can make a huge impact on other people’s lives,” – Mr. Apple replied.
All of a sudden, one friend introduced me to a group of entrepreneurs inside a secret Facebook Group. – I knew my business would increase drastically. In less than one year after I entered the mastermind group, my business’s revenue spiked by more than six times.
When I talked, I only said kindly about others. When others make mistakes, unless they asked me for advice, I wouldn’t correct them. I know for the fact that when my “old-self” didn’t like to receive criticism from others until the pain became unbearable. – I let people be who they are.
I don’t control them.
I don’t gossip about them.
I don’t say things like it is either my way of the highway.
I controlled the flow of my words. I made sure that every word will make them feel that I care about their existence. It is also the reasons why many people come to me from all sorts of life. Yesterday, I even had a chance to enjoy early dinner with a friend. He is one of the top 10 social influencers in the world with over 500,000 followers on Twitter.
My friend gave me advice on what I needed to do to increase my influence on social media. – He could have charged me tens of thousands of dollars, but he didn’t. Why is that, Henry?
Answer: I control and manage my words for more than five years now.
You see, human beings are kind. The problem is when we are unkind, take advantage of others, as well as burn our bridges unknowingly; people who are successful will stop giving your advice. – Why? It is because they fear that they would have awakened our internal demons.
How do our internal demons control our mind?
- When other people ignore us, our internal demons will tell us that those people are arrogant.
- When other people give us advice, our internal demons will tell us that those people have too much self-pride.
It is also the reason why we need to control our internal demons; I referred that as the Ying energy, to talk us out of being the best version of ourselves at all cost. Once we manage every kind word that we put out there whether, in person or public, we will live a limitless life.
The question you need to ask yourself is, “How do you plan to manage your words in your daily conversation with others in public and private?”
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Limitless For Life,
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur