Decades ago, I was young and foolish. I would say hurtful things. I would blur out every word that comes out from my mouth. I didn’t care what people think about me. I would say things like, “I am a straightforward type of guys.” Worse, when someone was kind to me, I would praise that person. On the other hand, when the same person tried to give me feedback, I would go against him or her.
I acted very immaturely. – But, did my words have consequences?
The truth is, “I didn’t know.” I thought that I have a freedom of speech. I could care less about what people think about me. If I didn’t like something, I would blur out to my colleagues, partners, and friends. Neither did I realize that my actions impacted my business, my relationship, as well as my chances to get everything I want in life.
The keyword in here is, “I burned my bridges.”
- People stop associating themselves with me.
- People would tell me the word, “Good job, you’re awesome, and I am happy for you.”
- People would say things like, “Henry, it was nice meeting you, but I got to go. I will catch up with you in a bit, okay?”
When I attended a seminar, I would see a group of people shared their information on how to grow their businesses. As soon as I participated in the conversation, each one of them started to excuse themselves from the discussion. – Then, I would see them regroup again on many different occasions.
Still, I didn’t get it on why people would ignore a straight shooter as I once was. – At that time, I could only assume that I was smarter than they were. However, as each day passed by, my business went south. Nobody wanted to give me any input on how I was able to do better. Worse, when I asked several friends for their advice, the only word they could give me was either “Good job” or “I don’t know.”
Years later, after I decided to let go of the need to be right, my godfather entered my life. – He quickly became a father figure in my life. When I told my godfather that my idea was great, he would ask me to prove it. When I said my godfather that I can do this and that, he would tell me to stop talking about it, instead get it done.
As I got upset with Mr. X and Ms. Y, my godfather told me to use my energy as an inspiration for others to change their life. – Soon, people started sharing with me on what they are going to do in their businesses and personal life. I didn’t ask for it. I solely focus on improving myself on a daily basis.
“I don’t understand,” – I asked Mr. Apple.
“What do you mean?” – Mr. Apple replied.
“Why did you tell me all these secrets strategies I need to do to build my business?” – I asked as I didn’t see the need for him to do so.
“Henry, you are a great guy. I believe you can make a huge impact on other people’s lives,” – Mr. Apple replied.
All of a sudden, one friend introduced me to a group of entrepreneurs inside a secret Facebook Group. – I knew my business would increase drastically. In less than one year after I entered the mastermind group, my business’s revenue spiked by more than six times.
When I talked, I only said kindly about others. When others make mistakes, unless they asked me for advice, I wouldn’t correct them. I know for the fact that when my “old-self” didn’t like to receive criticism from others until the pain became unbearable. – I let people be who they are.
I don’t control them.
I don’t gossip about them.
I don’t say things like it is either my way of the highway.
I controlled the flow of my words. I made sure that every word will make them feel that I care about their existence. It is also the reasons why many people come to me from all sorts of life. Yesterday, I even had a chance to enjoy early dinner with a friend. He is one of the top 10 social influencers in the world with over 500,000 followers on Twitter.
My friend gave me advice on what I needed to do to increase my influence on social media. – He could have charged me tens of thousands of dollars, but he didn’t. Why is that, Henry?
Answer: I control and manage my words for more than five years now.
You see, human beings are kind. The problem is when we are unkind, take advantage of others, as well as burn our bridges unknowingly; people who are successful will stop giving your advice. – Why? It is because they fear that they would have awakened our internal demons.
How do our internal demons control our mind?
- When other people ignore us, our internal demons will tell us that those people are arrogant.
- When other people give us advice, our internal demons will tell us that those people have too much self-pride.
It is also the reason why we need to control our internal demons; I referred that as the Ying energy, to talk us out of being the best version of ourselves at all cost. Once we manage every kind word that we put out there whether, in person or public, we will live a limitless life.
The question you need to ask yourself is, “How do you plan to manage your words in your daily conversation with others in public and private?”
Regardless, don’t forget to download my new e-book, “The Limitless Mindset” for free at http://thelimitlessmindset.com. It will show you how to unleash your power to fulfill your duty & mission in life.
Limitless For Life,
Henry Gold
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur
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hi, thanks for sharing, anyways read this book there is none other on earth like it, Human Reality Who We Are And Why We Exist, its free pdf, http://humanreality.org . It changed my life. But anyways i feel your happy with yourself from what i read from you, but for instance, why do you think you dream? Isn’t like a life of its own going on in a dream, but the characters in a dream don’t have free will. Dreaming is a natural part of our makeup, it is explained in this book, this life we are living is like a dream of our Real True Advanced Self, as now we are mortal humans, who we really are going thru this mortal experience, is really going on in our Advanced Human Selfs brain, sure we set up the platform of this universe, which takes millions of years to evolve, but then our mothers started us out as babies of every race and color, to gain experience from a mortal body, as our advanced body is perfect and does not die, So this life you will find out from this book above, is like a dream experience in our advanced humans mind in our mortal human body while connected to about 15 billion other advanced humans who also are playing this dream (game) of life we are living, and we have lived to this point in time 5 other earth lifes but each time we killed ourselves off, this is the 6th and final attempt to learn to use our humanity to not kill ourselves off for this final 6th stage of mortal life, we each have experienced many lives throughout these earths to gain a contrast experience, Why? because who we are as advanced humans we are perfect and to know your perfect we must experience somehow an opposition to ourselves, and that is why we are living this mortal life, problem is we have been allowed technology to see if we will use it right, well its not happening, wars are killing innocent mortals and causing unfairness and unequalness to a point that our mortal brains are breaking down and some of us are going on shooting sprees in schools and bars, terrorism is increasing, Well the whole point i am trying to make is that the messenger on the earth now trying to get us to become more humane to each other, is because this earth life is not the only earth life going on, there are endless ones going on, and from observing each our messenger is trying to get us to change things because the technology for nuclear weapons can now be in the hands of almost anyone, the information will be all over the net if not now, soon and they know a nuclear bomb will be detonated in the USA, they want to stop it, the only way is with the 5 basic needs program to take the pressure off of mortals so they can have their freewill as it was meant to be to experience this mortal life without hurting one another, SO as you can see this is as it was to me something you have never heard of, but these things are real and we must do something if we can to stop it, truth be known, thru the many earth lifes mortals have been going thru not many end up saving themselves and going on into the future developing our technology as mortals to amazing heights, but as of now because of the inhumanity in this world nuclear bomb will be set off by some mortal who has no hope left inside and will detonate this in washington state, the messenger is trying to get people to listen to stop this from happening, so we can treat each other with love and respect and not hurt anyone, so much of our earth is out of sync cause of the greed and egos of certain mortals in power positions that don’t have eyes to see whats about to happen soon because they are not taking care of the poor and needy and destitute and imprisoned and homeless on this earth, so the messenger know all religions are manmade and knows exactly in time as he can see any thing that our history has had happen, he knows how and why the old testament and then the new testament got started and how these religions divide mortals up into groups and will kill for their beliefs, totally wrong, so much is wrong but with the Humanity Party they have started to try and implement this 5 basic needs program through a majority vote in 2020 USA elections, so this 5 basic needs program can be implemented for everyone from birth to death in the entire world, that will get rid of all the problems, and its the only way we can save our sorry asses. Anyways i hope i do not disturb you in any way as my intention is just to look for helpers to help implement these things so life doesn’t end on this earth, thanks.
Paul, thank you for sharing. I suggest you focus on you. In the past, I tried to change the world; I can’t. I tried to change others; I can’t. I tried to change my siblings; I can’t. — It is when I realize that I can only change myself. The universe will always be here, and we are not. So, stop analyzing and start living. Hope this helps, bud. 🙂
As for me, I can re-start living the Limitless life since the series of articles of Mr Henry Gold are helpful and have a great impact. My subconscious mind awakens. Thank you so much Mr Henry Gold! May the Mighty GOD bestow you more fresh Divine Wisdom. Bless up! Again, a million thanks.
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This is great advice Henry. Our words define us – we don’t realize. Although many people forget what we say, they remember some things. People remember a kind tone or always courteous. Sometimes a person is in a hurry and their words are rushed and the person remembers that rushed feeling maybe. Anyway, great advice to be measured and thoughtful in what you say as well.