A few weeks ago, I went to Costco with my wife and mother-in-law. As usual, I would try to find free samples inside Costco. And, when I was walking on one of the aisles, I saw a familiar product that reminded me of my past. – Instead of being happy, I became a little bit emotional.
“What happen?” – My wife asked.
“Can you take a picture for me with this product?” – I asked.
“Sure,” – My wife did it happily.
After my wife took the picture, she became very curious about the product.
“What is so unique about this product?” – My wife asked.
“Well, it reminded me of my humble beginning,” – I replied as I got a little bit of emotion.
You see, a lot of people thought that my success was instantaneous. The truth is, “I failed countless times.”
- My first girlfriend left and cheated on me when I was broke. — I spent over $100,000 on her for six months.
- My first venture failed miserably in which it made me broke.
- My investment went down the hill in which I lost 99% of my cash flow in months.
- My first car, a BMW Series 3 was repossessed as I couldn’t afford the monthly payment.
- I had to move from a one-bedroom apartment to a tiny room shared with my younger sister. – I ended up sleeping on the couch as the place was too small for me.
At one point, I was almost sleeping on the street. I was lucky enough to have a place to stay as my deceased younger sister believed in my dream.
I didn’t have a penny under my name in which I had to pick up pennies on the street to get 25 cents. Then, I would exchange a quarter with a cupcake. — It was my only meal for a few months.
Still, I didn’t let go of my dream. Even in the worse situation of my life where the bank took away my first dream car, a BMW, I still focused on my goal. Also though my first girlfriend used me and made me spent over $100,000, then cheated on me with another guy, I still didn’t let go of my dream life.
Even though I had to sell all my possessions because I had to downsize from a one-bedroom rental place in Boston to a tiny room shared with my younger sister, I threw away everything else except my computer.
I know a lot of people came up to me and said that life is too painful or unbearable. My question is, “Is your limitless life worth the fight?”
A mentor can help you only to a certain extent. A coach can guide you only to a certain extent. A partner can just do his part of the duty until a certain extent. An employee can do their tasks unless you give them further instruction.
However, you must be the one who is mowing the grass. It will not be your coaches or mentors. It will be between you and you. – Sure, it will be painful, and it is what makes all of us strong. Sure, everybody wanted to listen to the happy ending. What they don’t realize is, every happy ending requires a lot of woodwork where you must be mentally strong to face all the obstacles in front of you with an open heart and open mind.
- You can’t just give up just because someone criticizes you.
- You can’t just give up just because you failed on making your project successful.
- You can’t just give up just because you’re significant others suddenly want you to spend time with them.
A limitless means you give your all in every aspect of your life. It means that if it is time for you to give up on a failed project, you got to give it up. If it is time for you to complete your tasks, you must get it done. If it is time for you to spend time with your family, regardless of how much you need to do, you must stop working.
You must be one with limitless. – During a good time, you are endless. During a tough time, you are limitless.
Once you understand this concept, regardless of how many obstacles you may face in the future, you won’t give in to fear. Instead, you will connect with your best friend, Mr. Intuition. The question is, “How can you be limitless when things got tough in life?”
Well, here are three formulas that I use to stay limitless, forever:
#1: Do I want to die miserably? Or Do I want to leave this world with no regret?
These are the questions I asked myself when things didn’t go in my favor. When my ex-girlfriend left me when I almost became blind, instead of begging my ex-girlfriend to come back to me, I asked myself these two questions:
A) If I beg my ex-girlfriend to come back and I became blind permanently, will she stay with me forever?
B) If I focus on my health and invest in me, even if I become blind, will I be able to find a girl who loved me for me in the future?
It all comes down to an abundant mindset and a scarcity mindset. Soon after my ex-girlfriend left, I was emotionally devastated. I didn’t beg. I didn’t call. I refused to pick up my ex-girlfriend call. – Sure, I was grieving, and it was normal. It was a feeling of loss. However, did I regret not begging my ex-girlfriend? Nope.
For me, it was the best thing in my life. I was no longer miserable. Sure, I had had eye problems where I had a hard time seeing things for another two years. However, neither did I realize that after I let go of the toxic relationship, I found the girl that loved me for who I am. – Now, she is my wife. She doesn’t have to change me. I don’t have to change me. We are just two independent people who love each other for who we are.
#2: Am I staying true to myself? Or Am I faking it to make other people happy?
These are the questions I had to ask myself repeatedly when things didn’t go my way. Let me give you an example of this, okay?
For years, my deceased younger sister was faking her happiness. When I spoke to her on the phone, she sounded adamant and arrogant. In reality, she was an unhappy person. For many decades, she wanted other people to look up to her. She wanted other people to see her as a leader.
“Are you tired?” – I asked her.
“What do you mean?” – My younger sister replied.
“Are you tired of pretending to be strong?” – I asked again.
“Stop it,” – My younger sisters scolded at me and hung up the phone.
After my younger sister passed away from a broken soul, my oldest sister told me that our younger sister was in pain for many years. She would call my oldest sister and told my oldest sister how painful her life was. – For many years, she tried to make my father happy, but my father only cared about himself.
#3: Do I want to say the words “I wish”? Or Do I want to say the words “I have done it all.”?
Every single moment, I will ask myself these two statements back to back. I know for the fact that if I mentioned the words “I wish,” I attracted lower vibration energy (The Ying energy). When I mentioned the words “I have done it all,” I attract higher vibration energy (The Yang energy).
Let me give you an example from my own personal life, okay?
When I first discovered I had a brain tumor the size of the golf ball, I was devastated. For a couple of days, I asked myself if I should slow down or I should focus on giving my all. – It became a ping-pong in my head on whether I should focus on negative thoughts or positive thoughts.
- Ying energy. – Henry, you were dying anyway. Why didn’t you slow down and grieving about it? You should feel sad and down. You should feel bad about how the world treated you. (The Ying energy wanted me to have a victim mentality.)
- Yang energy. – Henry, I knew you might die in the operating room, but you must give your all on every aspect of your life. It had been your purpose and mission, and it should continue to be your mission until you are six-feet under. (The Yang energy wanted me to give my all regardless of the outcome.)
As I decided to follow the Yang energy, in six weeks, I moved all my stuff from a two-bedroom house to a storage room. Also, I transitioned my business to my vice president, created a will just in case I became a vegetable, sold off the majority of my business assets, said thank you to all my partners and friends, launched a high six-figure business, etc.
Then, I’ve also said thank you to all family members. Plus, I’ve also given instructions to my employees on what they needed to do to serve my existing customers, provided two-month of salary just in case I didn’t make it alive from the operating room. – Then, I’ve also said goodbye to my wife.
The question you need to ask yourself is, “What do you do when you are at your wit end?”
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Limitless For Life,
Author, Speaker, Limitless Potential Expert, Entrepreneur